Spend sometime over the next day thinking about what your life will be like in 5 years time. Then spend longer thinking about what you want you life to be like in 5 years time. Once you have an idea of what you want your life to be like, then close your eyes and imagine you are living that life now. How do you feel? Who is there with you? How do they feel about your life? What images do you see? Now store those feelings and images in you memory bank. Write them down or draw them if you wish.
This is you goal. Now you have to work out how you are going to achieve this goal. What do you need to do to get to your goal. Break these steps up into smaller short-term goals that move you towards your goal.
Share your goal with a coach, you need someone who will support you in your journey, through appropriate challenge and validation. Do not pick someone who will agree with everything you suggest. You need someone who will encourage you to push your boundaries, but will be there to support you when times are difficult.
You may not achieve all your short-term goals, so you must be prepared to reappraise and start again. The key is not to give up, and keep trying with a different approach. This were your coach earns their stripes supporting and challenging you to find a new route to your destination or even adjusting your destination.
When choosing your goal, consider those dreams or aspirations that make you smile, but you never think you will have the opportunity to achieve. These are often the most fulfilling.