If you know me you no how soppy I can be, and I will often talk about love in a work setting. If you don’t know me you are probably wandering what the hell I am going on about. Am I encouraging workplace romances? No I am not, that is another blog entirely. Before IContinue reading “A blog about love”
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Leading a values based life (connecting with the present)
Slowing our thinking As I mentioned in the previously the neocortex is never going to act faster than the reptilian and mammalian brains. They are designed to react to keep us safe. The problem is they are rather blunt and indiscriminate. Professor Steve Peters bundled them together into the Chimp to describe how they bothContinue reading “Leading a values based life (connecting with the present)”
Leading a values based life (understanding shame and vulnerability)
As I promised yesterday here is the second instalment of the latest iteration of my Connected Living Project. I touched on shame and vulnerability last week in relation to me writing this blog. We see shame everyday at work, showing up in defensive and divisive behaviours, every time we look at the media we seeContinue reading “Leading a values based life (understanding shame and vulnerability)”
Leading a Value’s Based Life (an antidote to a shitty few weeks)
The past few weeks have tough. I cannot put my finger on one thing, there is just a lot of noise in the system at work and outside of work that is conspiring to narrow my bandwidth. Talking to people over the past few weeks it is not just me that is feeling this wayContinue reading “Leading a Value’s Based Life (an antidote to a shitty few weeks)”
Address the context not the behaviour
There is a lot of focus on poor behaviours from all angles (colleagues, customers, patients, general public). It feels especially a problem since the pandemic. Wherever you look there is divisiveness…”you are either on our side or against us” attitude appears to prevail. We all blame different groups for these behaviours, the right wing, theContinue reading “Address the context not the behaviour”
Reflections
I was up ridiculously early this morning. At 5:30am I was laying in bed wide awake, with the all the activity of the past week playing out in my head. Everything I managed to achieve, all what I didn’t get done, and most importantly all the things I could have done better. The usual whenContinue reading “Reflections”
Does our fear of vulnerability fuel our shame and disconnects us from people around us
In my day job I speak to health professionals about their experiences at work and what they find the most difficult. It nearly always boils down to communication, people being rude and dismissive, being shouted at, and communication being incomplete. This is not just from one direction, this is generally from every and any direction,Continue reading “Does our fear of vulnerability fuel our shame and disconnects us from people around us”
Positivity (Not what it is cracked up to be)
This week I delivered a short talk to a group of Doctors in training about how to manage stress at work and home. I deliver this talk to Foundation Year 2 Doctors on a fairly regular basis. It started life as a straight up signposting session, telling them where to get help if they neededContinue reading “Positivity (Not what it is cracked up to be)”
I have found something I didn’t realise I had lost
I normally write my blogs when I get up on a Saturday morning. When I was in the groove a few years ago, it was my Saturday morning routine. During the pandemic at one point it was a daily routine. I found it incredibly helpful in managing my well-being. More recently I lost that routineContinue reading “I have found something I didn’t realise I had lost”
The Power and Curse of Emotional Intelligence
Last week I wrote a little bit about how I make decisions and interpret the world, I am much more comfortable picking up feelings, both internally and what is happening around me. I struggle to with creating and interrogating logical structures. I am fine if someone provides me with a structure that is not overlyContinue reading “The Power and Curse of Emotional Intelligence”
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