The past few months have been the most difficult in my life so far. I have never felt emotional pain like this. I have not tried to push it away I have sat with it and accepted it. It is worth it, it is worth it for the 51 years of unconditional love I hadContinue reading “Thank you for everything Mum”
Author Archives: Matt Smith Personal and Professional Coach
Meaningful support for leaders
I teach Clinical Supervision, practice as a supervisor for Nurses and AHPs ,as well as coaching, I also provide coaching supervision for our internal coaches. I have also started the ILM 7 cert in coaching supervision. Recently I have been thinking about the challenges faced by leaders not just the NHS but across all industries,Continue reading “Meaningful support for leaders”
Trying to give up? Stop it, it won’t work!
Whether you want to give up smoking, cut back on drinking or lose weight, focusing on giving something up or denying yourself something you are attached to is unlikely to end in success. If we set ourselves goals on moving away from something, such as smoking, or drinking too much, or reducing our weight, thenContinue reading “Trying to give up? Stop it, it won’t work!”
Reflections on love, certainty and loss
On 28th August 2022 my Mum died. Since that day I have felt traumatised, lost, alone, loved, grateful, angry, frustrated, sad, distraught, hopeful, most importantly uncertain. The time between her death and her funeral on 20th September feels unsettling and uncertain. I am mourning the loss of the life I had with my mum inContinue reading “Reflections on love, certainty and loss”
Three simple steps for taking control of your life
Apart from Women’s Football and Commonwealth Games there is very little in our world in the moment that feels positive. The news is dominated by the cost of living crisis, war in Ukraine, climate change and child murder. When I go to work the extreme pressures on the NHS are evident, everything is much, muchContinue reading “Three simple steps for taking control of your life”
5 Step Guide to Living a Value Based Life
1. Connect to Your Story Listen to and understand what you are telling yourself and what you are feeling. Recognise where they come from. Let them inform you, not define you. 2. Connect With What You Value Identify your most important values. What motivates you? What moves you into action? What you cannot imagine beingContinue reading “5 Step Guide to Living a Value Based Life”
That Sunday Feeling
Sundays conjure up so many memories, emotions, and sensations. The smell of bacon cooking in the morning, the sound of the radio playing in the background, laying in bed all day nursing a hangover, trips to the seaside, walks by the river, roast dinners, cups of tea, the Sunday Matinee, getting ready for school theContinue reading “That Sunday Feeling”
Is that a light at the end of the tunnel or someone bringing more work?
The title sums up how I feel at the moment. I have been consumed with helping teams write their mission statements, preparing for and delivering on our leadership programmes, talking about coaching, teaching some coaching skills and approaches, and actually coaching people. The past month has been full on, so full on and consuming IContinue reading “Is that a light at the end of the tunnel or someone bringing more work?”
Connect with your present at least once a day.
Most days we follow a routine and mindlessly complete tasks without really paying attention to them. This ability to mindlessly carry out tasks we do everyday is essential, it frees up our conscious minds to carry out other tasks like engaging in conversation, reviewing past activitities, planning future activities, or listening to information. However weContinue reading “Connect with your present at least once a day.”
How to better connect with people around you.
“Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it’s worth.” Many of you will remember these words of wisdom from Baz Lurhman’s song (more spoken to music) Everybody is Free (ToContinue reading “How to better connect with people around you.”