There is a lot of focus on poor behaviours from all angles (colleagues, customers, patients, general public). It feels especially a problem since the pandemic. Wherever you look there is divisiveness…”you are either on our side or against us” attitude appears to prevail. We all blame different groups for these behaviours, the right wing, theContinue reading “Address the context not the behaviour”
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Reflections
I was up ridiculously early this morning. At 5:30am I was laying in bed wide awake, with the all the activity of the past week playing out in my head. Everything I managed to achieve, all what I didn’t get done, and most importantly all the things I could have done better. The usual whenContinue reading “Reflections”
Does our fear of vulnerability fuel our shame and disconnects us from people around us
In my day job I speak to health professionals about their experiences at work and what they find the most difficult. It nearly always boils down to communication, people being rude and dismissive, being shouted at, and communication being incomplete. This is not just from one direction, this is generally from every and any direction,Continue reading “Does our fear of vulnerability fuel our shame and disconnects us from people around us”
Don’t chase a career path, go where your values take you
You might be at the beginning of your working life, or already on a career path and wondering what is next for you, there are always points in our life when we start to consider our choices on where we want to be in the next few years. There seems to be a popular viewContinue reading “Don’t chase a career path, go where your values take you”
Positivity (Not what it is cracked up to be)
This week I delivered a short talk to a group of Doctors in training about how to manage stress at work and home. I deliver this talk to Foundation Year 2 Doctors on a fairly regular basis. It started life as a straight up signposting session, telling them where to get help if they neededContinue reading “Positivity (Not what it is cracked up to be)”
Courage
I have written this opening sentence about 10 times and deleted it this morning. I just cannot decide what to write. I did contemplate not writing anything this week, as I didn’t think I had anything to say that was new. I am still not sure if I have anything to write. These blogs areContinue reading “Courage”
We all need to be heard, really heard!
I don’t often do 2 blogs, 2 days in a row, but today’s blog is less personal, what I want to talk about today is how we communicate more effectively, by talking less and listening more. Most of us think that we listen well but I would suggest most of do not. I have writtenContinue reading “We all need to be heard, really heard!”
I have found something I didn’t realise I had lost
I normally write my blogs when I get up on a Saturday morning. When I was in the groove a few years ago, it was my Saturday morning routine. During the pandemic at one point it was a daily routine. I found it incredibly helpful in managing my well-being. More recently I lost that routineContinue reading “I have found something I didn’t realise I had lost”
The Power and Curse of Emotional Intelligence
Last week I wrote a little bit about how I make decisions and interpret the world, I am much more comfortable picking up feelings, both internally and what is happening around me. I struggle to with creating and interrogating logical structures. I am fine if someone provides me with a structure that is not overlyContinue reading “The Power and Curse of Emotional Intelligence”
The shame of the imposter
There are a few things I want to talk about this week. I am really good at listening to people and getting into the thoughts alongside them, helping them poke around what is bothering them and get a bit more understanding about what is going on. I am rubbish at doing it myself, and IContinue reading “The shame of the imposter”
