29/05/2020 Jack’s 18th Birthday

My youngest is 18 today. I am sure not the 18th he dreamed about. No trip to the pub with his mates, no night out at Welly, or Spiders. Just a trip to Sainsbury’s local with his ID to buy in his first legal beer. Maybe a kick-about in the garden with his brother thenContinue reading “29/05/2020 Jack’s 18th Birthday”

10/04/2020 My Son’s Birthday

Ben my eldest is 20 today. 20! I know, hard to believe! Along with millions of others he is having a birthday in the house. He is making the best of it, but it is not the same as spending it with his friends and girlfriend. He did however point out that he had plannedContinue reading “10/04/2020 My Son’s Birthday”

03/04/2020 On the up slope

Well I have woken up this morning albeit very early starting to feel normal after 10 ten days. My cough is now infrequent and the chest pain is diminished. After I wrote yesterdays entry I felt really quite unwell and emotional. I thought I was getting worse again, and for a moment I started overthinkingContinue reading “03/04/2020 On the up slope”

31/03/2020 Day 7 of the symptoms

It has been nearly a week since I started with symptoms. Yesterday I think was the worst day I have had. The coughing fits seemed more frequent and I was more fatigued than I have been. Last night was pretty rough too, I woke about 2 am with a cough, that just wouldn’t stop. IContinue reading “31/03/2020 Day 7 of the symptoms”

28/03/20 Boris, Disney, and coughing

Well it turns out I have something in common with Boris. Get well soon Boris and Matt. This disease does feel like a juggernaut relentlessly rumbling around the world in an unstoppable wave of destruction. The only way to beat this is to stay inside as much as you can. Reducing contact reduces the abilityContinue reading “28/03/20 Boris, Disney, and coughing”

Don’t let your past define you, just appreciate it for what it is.

I was born in Gosport, Hampshire some 4 years after this picture was taken. I was born in the house in the house where this picture was taken. The house was married quarters for Royal Naval personnel. My Dad was a Petty Officer in the Royal Navy. My Dad was absent for much of myContinue reading “Don’t let your past define you, just appreciate it for what it is.”

Always Dad

Dad is one of those titles, that once you have been given it, it is yours for life, no matter what. You will always be a Dad! There are however good Dads, bad Dads or indifferent Dads. From a moment your children are born the pressure is on to be the protector, provider and roleContinue reading “Always Dad”

Time to take action! But first let me introduce myself.

I am Matt (Matthew if you prefer full names). I was born in 1971, so that puts me at the back end of my 40s. I have been married for nearly 24 years and have two boys (who are both young adults now). I have worked as a healthcare professional for 30 years. Nearly 20Continue reading “Time to take action! But first let me introduce myself.”

Be Grateful

Our default setting is to look for the negative in our lives. This is for good reason, it is designed to keep us safe in a world of physical danger. However most of us occupy a world where most of our dangers are theoretical. For many of us though it is just easier to seeContinue reading “Be Grateful”

All the middles, forgotten, lost and misunderstood

Are you a middle aged, middle class, middle England man, who is feeling a bit lost, and frankly misunderstood? And no you don’t want to bloody talk about it! You know what, not being okay is not okay! Being okay is okay, not being okay is shit! Accepting things are shit is not where youContinue reading “All the middles, forgotten, lost and misunderstood”